Social life differences

Why doesn't my girlfriend want to spend more time with me?

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• She said that after those 2 long relationships she just wanted to "have fun" so she stayed at clubs 3-4 nights a week. She thinks there was nothing wrong with sleeping with so many guys because "that's what men do".
• In fact I was never invited or even set foot in her house for the first 4 months we were together. In the past couple months I have shown up at her house a couple times without telling her I was coming and almost every time I do she gets upset with me and says "You need to call me before you come to my house". This is very puzzling to me considering she has a key to my house.
  • You are just wasting your time with her.
  • Drop her and move on to someone who wants to be with you and can't wait for you to call

Why does my Girlfriend rather hang out with her friends? link

• "It seems that my girlfriend will make plans with everyone else and not me, and then if her friends ask her to do something and we were planning something she will hang with them instead. It seems like she is forgetting me. What should I do and should i be worried?"
  • You must appear to be having more fun than her. When she breaks plans with you to hang out with others...go out without her.
  • Alternatively, you can accept her as she is; develop your own social life, exploring other possible connections; and give her the relationship she is giving you. Of course, that might reduce the comfort she takes from you, hastening the end of the relationship. That would be OK. Better than a rather unhealthy relationship where she takes you for granted and you resent it.
  • If we really like a guy, most of us will ditch our girlfriends if there's a chance of hanging out with a guy we like.
  • You'll know when a girl is truly into you. She'll want to be with you, every chance she gets.
  • If your girlfriend is not spending time with you and breaks plans with you to hang out with her friends, this may be a good indicator of her level of interest in the relationship. There are people, both male and female who like knowing that they have a girlfriend or boyfriend as a safety net and therefore stay in the relationship, especially if a lot of time has been invested. It sounds like you each may have a different idea or definition of what boyfriend/girlfriend means.
  • why you want so much to be with someone who appears to have little interest in being with you? It is clear that this girl wants to be with her friends more than with you. You should spend your time doing things that interest you, things that you enjoy. You will only be happy when you are with someone who genuinely "gets" you, and who wants to be with you for yourself.

Boyfriend needs his social life, but leave me out link

• i'm with spiderlove - get out. he is ashamed of you or hiding something from you and you're clinging to the tiny details to make yourself feel better (eg: sometimes he invites me, they know about me etc.) but that isn't making up for the fact that his social life completely excludes you
• i don't want to jump to conclusions but since he got this new job, he's a party animal and doesn't invite you out much to bars OR to work functions because it stresses him? my deduction of this: he's met someone at work - whether or not he's cheated on you is up for debate but he's definitely hiding something
• He's just not that into you.
• You need to find someone who is PROUD to have you by his side when he is out with co-workers and friends.
• Your man wont bring you around, probably never talks about you and spends hours at a bar...where the rest of the single people are.
• Summary: Opinions almost universally against the guy, a few berate the girl for being too clingy.

My girlfriend doesn't want to spend time with me. What should I do?

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• deflate her and take her back to the store (hope you kept the reciept).
• when you are too busy for her or too tired to see her, she'll see that as a challenge, but if you are always calling and always available, she can have you anytime she wants. So there is no urgency to see you. She always sees you!
  • And STOP ASKING HER if she wants to hang out. If she wants to hang, she'll ask you. asking her and getting denied repeatedly only makes you look like you are weak (from her perspective.)
  • Women like men that don't like them.
  • The less you let her effect you, the more she'll see you as a stud that is in control of his life and who is self-reliant. Women Love men that are solid and self-reliant. After all, thousands of years of genetical evolution doesn't change the underlying core that women typically want the emotionless-hunter-manly type. They want to turn their lives over to you after marriage and know that you can take care of them and her children, if necessary.
  • If the case is she wants to have her time with her friends, then let her have the time. Sometimes even two loving people still need to hang-out with other than his/her loved one but still they have the love.
  • If the case is she's getting bored of you. Then it's the time to end the relationship.

My girlfriend doesn't want me to hang out with her friends

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My girlfriend gets hammered, her friends hate me, what should i do

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I get the feeling my girlfriend is uncomfortable with me befriending her (guy) friends? why would this be?

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  • This is a next level type of deal for her...meaning she has kept her friendships and relationships separate
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    • Is there something to hide? Most women know that the relationship is going pretty good
      when the guy decides to deal with her friends. Meeting the friends is special.
    • Option 3- She needs to let go of a bad experience from the past
    • If you truly like her, even if you have to pry it out of her, do what it takes to save your relationship.
  • I agree with ChelseaFC2009. She's possibly worried that maybe her guy friends know stuff that she doesn't want them to tell you.
  • a lot of people in relationships want to keep their social life and dating life seperate. you could be overstepping your bounds in her eyes by trying to befriend her friends. I know I'm the same way.

Girlfriend wants separate life - wrong to be upset? link

• My problem is that she generally sees them on a one-to-one basis, and always expects to see them alone, ie I am not invited.
• I find it hurtful that she seems to want to lead a separate life that doesn't include me.
• Maybe it's her way of keeping her own space which is healthy. A lot of girls prefer their own space to be with friends.
• I tend to believe that people that can't offer to let their S.O. into their friend circle has something to hide.

Girlfriend doesn't want me socializing with close friends link